Would you dump your girlfriend if....
A couple weeks ago there was some gossip going around about a coworker--let's call him Jack. Apparently Jack is in the midst of leaving his long time girlfriend "Jill". By all accounts Jack and Jill were madly in love. They'd been together 3 years and were even talking about getting married. So what happened?
The story goes that Jill's friend "Sarah" was going through a bad breakup. Jill decides to have a girl's night in Sarah's apartment. They get a little drunk, they kiss, and things go from there. And by "go from there", I mean they had hot lesbian sex. The very next day Jill tells Jack what happens. He breaks up with her.
During this little gossip session one of our coworkers mentions that he wouldn't dump his girlfriend if she cheated on him with another girl. Some agree, some disagree.
Personally, I don't think I'd dump my girl over this either. If it was another dude, I'd walk out in second. But a girl...? I don't think I'd be that upset over it. My wife has some pretty attractive friends and I think I'd be okay if they fooled around
What do you guys think? Would you leave your significant other if she cheated on you with a girl?
The story goes that Jill's friend "Sarah" was going through a bad breakup. Jill decides to have a girl's night in Sarah's apartment. They get a little drunk, they kiss, and things go from there. And by "go from there", I mean they had hot lesbian sex. The very next day Jill tells Jack what happens. He breaks up with her.
During this little gossip session one of our coworkers mentions that he wouldn't dump his girlfriend if she cheated on him with another girl. Some agree, some disagree.
Personally, I don't think I'd dump my girl over this either. If it was another dude, I'd walk out in second. But a girl...? I don't think I'd be that upset over it. My wife has some pretty attractive friends and I think I'd be okay if they fooled around
What do you guys think? Would you leave your significant other if she cheated on you with a girl?
Comments
I find it interesting that you would be fine with it if she fooled around with ATTRACTIVE friends. What if she fooled around with a fat ugly broad?
I was joking about that. I meant to add a little winky face there. I am a fat ugly dude so I think I'd be OK with that too!
It's one thing if a partner consents to their SO being involved with someone else, but that's a whole other discussion. :-p
Personally, I am a broken woman who doesn't believe in love, romance and all that bloody, awful mushy stuff.
So, if I am involved with someone and they decide to fool around with someone else of the same gender or the opposite, great! It is one night I won't have to open my legs or make skilled use of my fingers. All the better.
It is just sex. It is not like it means anything.
If they tell me they did it, great. If not, great as well.
Instant breakup. If she does that with a chick over a few drinks, what's to say that wouldn't happen with a guy, or even another girl in the future? Trust is gone after that. I would wager those that say they wouldn't breakup with them would probably think differently if they were in that position.
+1
And before anyone asks if it has any reason why he is my ex husband...the answer is no...not in the slightest.
Instant breakup. If she does that with a chick over a few drinks, what's to say that wouldn't happen with a guy, or even another girl in the future? Trust is gone after that. I would wager those that say they wouldn't breakup with them would probably think differently if they were in that position.
Been there a few times, didn't care.
But again, I just don't form romantic bonds with other people, so eh. My case is definitely not basis for anything here.
Doesn't matter the gender. Cheating is cheating. If it's not okay for men to do that to women, why would it be okay the other way around?
I definitely thought that too. Like, if "Jill" found out "Jack" was comforting one of his bros after their breakup, drinks then lead to cheating, and Jill has to decide whether she's fine with it or not, maybe based on the attractiveness of Jack's friend? Could come across like a double standard to some.
Instant breakup. If she does that with a chick over a few drinks, what's to say that wouldn't happen with a guy, or even another girl in the future?
This is a really good point I hadn't considered. Still though I don't think it's a deal breaker. I'm not saying I'd condone the act, but I wouldn't leave her.
Maybe it's because we've been together so long. We've got a lot invested in this relationship.
Like I said, cheating with another guy is unforgivable. A girl though....we could come back from that.
Instant breakup. If she does that with a chick over a few drinks, what's to say that wouldn't happen with a guy, or even another girl in the future?
This is a really good point I hadn't considered. Still though I don't think it's a deal breaker. I'm not saying I'd condone the act, but I wouldn't leave her.
Maybe it's because we've been together so long. We've got a lot invested in this relationship.
Like I said, cheating with another guy is unforgivable. A girl though....we could come back from that.
I'm not one for double standards, but once trust is broken, it's difficult to come back from it. Having invested a lot into a relationship would seem worse, IMO, since you should know your SO inside and out. If something that deceitful can be done because of a few sniffles, and something that was 100% avoidable, I would have a difficult time believing she would remain faithful going forward (as well as believing much of anything she said after).
Instant breakup. If she does that with a chick over a few drinks, what's to say that wouldn't happen with a guy, or even another girl in the future? Trust is gone after that. I would wager those that say they wouldn't breakup with them would probably think differently if they were in that position.
Been there a few times, didn't care.
But again, I just don't form romantic bonds with other people, so eh. My case is definitely not basis for anything here.
Totally understand where you're coming from, but you're also not the settle down / relationship type
I just figured everyone is going to cheat sometime. I tell em just make sure I don't find out about it and use protection.
I'm the total opposite, I'm one to say "If you're ever going to cheat on me, give me a heads up before you do so we can break up first and skip the drama."
I'd much prefer just having a clean break prior as oppose to all the guilt, lies, and back stabbery after the fact. Plus if someone wants to cheat on me then that person isn't someone I'd want to be with out of self respect. It would make for an easy breakup. I want someone who really cares about me, ya dig?
I've personally never cheated because I've always broken up before things got that far. Man, just writing that actually makes me feel like an asshole...
I just figured everyone is going to cheat sometime. I tell em just make sure I don't find out about it and use protection.
I'm the total opposite, I'm one to say "If you're ever going to cheat on me, give me a heads up before you do so we can break up first and skip the drama."
I'd much prefer just having a clean break prior as oppose to all the guilt, lies, and back stabbery after the fact. Plus if someone wants to cheat on me then that person isn't someone I'd want to be with out of self respect. It would make for an easy breakup. I want someone who really cares about me, ya dig?
I've personally never cheated because I've always broken up before things got that far. Man, just writing that actually makes me feel like an asshole...
It's not being an asshole at all though... I think you'd feel more like an asshole if you did the opposite.
It's not being an asshole at all though... I think you'd feel more like an asshole if you did the opposite.
I know, I know. But I'm just thinking about how much it sucks when your feelings are gone for someone, but they're still smitten over you, and in their head everything is fine and dandy. But then a few days later they get hit with a bombshell and to them it's just *BAM* - relationship - "game over" - out of nowhere. It's hard to not seem a little assholish in that situation, although definitely much less than being a cheater.
In all seriousness though, while I'm probably in the minority here, if they were both VERY drunk (Like nearly vomiting and having a massive headache the next day drunk) then I'd probably forgive both of them, alcohol can do some messed up stuff to your brain if you drink too much, I'd just tell her to not drink that much ever again when there's another person involved, but if that started happening after only a couple of drinks, I'd be out. Anyways, for the most part, yes, cheating is indeed cheating.