An emotionally difficult time has led me to some realizations
It's been a really rough few months as I've quit smoking cigarettes after 11 years at a pack a day habit. Mind you I just turned 24. The last few weeks have really been hellish. The anniversary of when we found my sisters corpse falls on my mothers birthday, 5 years so far. That hasn't worn away yet, I felt really bad considering mom has empty nest syndrome and bought me a ton of stuff for my birthday. I was happy at first then realized the psychological implications and that she wasn't really happy.
The reason I'm posting this is because I've seen mention of a few sell out threads where people confess to
getting too deep into collecting. I'm getting close to being one of
those members. No, I haven't blown $30,000 on a sealed stadium events
but I feel like I'm blowing too much money on games. Often ones that have no attachment to me. I just buy them with the intention of trading for others or selling. To which I've only sold like 3 games, all uncommon or common at best.
At first I was tight about $20-30 but now I'm spending close to $100 at a clip. Now, hey, if I could find some of my 'have to find insanely rare' titles for that, I'm on it. The problem is that I'm buying a lot of stuff I don't really need or want. That's a relative statement because no one really NEEDS games. I think you get the idea though.
I guess it's clear to me now looking at the wall of genesis stuff staring back at me. I initially got into this because I wanted a few Nintendo titles I had as a kid. The allure of the next big find and all the inflation got dollar signs in my eyes and well, I fell into it. That and emotional attachments, memories, you know.
I want to apologize to the community for being one of the many to hike up market prices. Instead of coming here and calling out to the community for the games I chose feebay or one many shiesty outlets. I've low balled as many times as I've been, which isn't fair, doing what I hate to someone else doesn't justify it because it happened to me first. I need to be the one to break the cycle if I have a problem with it. I know it won't stop it from happening but I'll at least be holding myself to the golden rule.
That golden rule really smacked me in the face last week when I traded with this kid and got a really sweet deal. I feel conflicted as to that because the guy was happy with the trade but I know I came out on top. I'm just glad I didn't take those Shun knives he offered or I'd feel much worse.
I often forget how well I have it even if my past almost killed me. I cant understand everyone's life situation and won't try to. I just want to apologize to those I've interacted with that have had less than positive experiences with me. I hope I haven't tarnished anyone's opinion of NA, SA, or other forums.
My intentions were pure in the beginning, I'd like to try to get back to that.
I guess I'm calling out to the community for help. I don't know if there's any support for impulse buyers, if there is I'd like someone to PM me about it. Thank you.
The reason I'm posting this is because I've seen mention of a few sell out threads where people confess to
getting too deep into collecting. I'm getting close to being one of
those members. No, I haven't blown $30,000 on a sealed stadium events
but I feel like I'm blowing too much money on games. Often ones that have no attachment to me. I just buy them with the intention of trading for others or selling. To which I've only sold like 3 games, all uncommon or common at best.
At first I was tight about $20-30 but now I'm spending close to $100 at a clip. Now, hey, if I could find some of my 'have to find insanely rare' titles for that, I'm on it. The problem is that I'm buying a lot of stuff I don't really need or want. That's a relative statement because no one really NEEDS games. I think you get the idea though.
I guess it's clear to me now looking at the wall of genesis stuff staring back at me. I initially got into this because I wanted a few Nintendo titles I had as a kid. The allure of the next big find and all the inflation got dollar signs in my eyes and well, I fell into it. That and emotional attachments, memories, you know.
I want to apologize to the community for being one of the many to hike up market prices. Instead of coming here and calling out to the community for the games I chose feebay or one many shiesty outlets. I've low balled as many times as I've been, which isn't fair, doing what I hate to someone else doesn't justify it because it happened to me first. I need to be the one to break the cycle if I have a problem with it. I know it won't stop it from happening but I'll at least be holding myself to the golden rule.
That golden rule really smacked me in the face last week when I traded with this kid and got a really sweet deal. I feel conflicted as to that because the guy was happy with the trade but I know I came out on top. I'm just glad I didn't take those Shun knives he offered or I'd feel much worse.
I often forget how well I have it even if my past almost killed me. I cant understand everyone's life situation and won't try to. I just want to apologize to those I've interacted with that have had less than positive experiences with me. I hope I haven't tarnished anyone's opinion of NA, SA, or other forums.
My intentions were pure in the beginning, I'd like to try to get back to that.
I guess I'm calling out to the community for help. I don't know if there's any support for impulse buyers, if there is I'd like someone to PM me about it. Thank you.
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But in the long run, it might be better off to save your cash, in case something bad happens, or if that once in a lifetime steal comes along, but you are a few bucks short of getting it.
As far as collecting, I have tread dangerously close to the line you're at and I'm a first year collector. I'll pm you my number invade you ever need to talk bro
I think once my hours pick back up it'll solve itself. Lately I've been stuck with nothing to do. On the final finishing details for a few major websites that are launching within the next few weeks and I'm twiddling my thumbs until then. I've had nothing but time to walk around the strip and check PnT. Na for that matter too, like 100 times a day. Beats facebook though, that's for sure.
Addictive personality can be a compliment Shogun . On the serious side, I have had past dependencies ranging from chemicals to confections. It's been 6+ years since I put a needle in my arm, I'm proud of that. Especially after last month, considering it's how my sister died it's easy to stop myself from doing it. I love my mom too much to put her through that again.
The motivation for quitting smoking and losing the weight was born out of spite. There's another thread where I get into what all my ex put me through and rock bottom. Mind you I paraphrase a lot and keep a lot of the extremely negative things off of the board. To me handling hate is very easy, I've dealt with it being a large guy for most of my life. It's issues of the heart that are the hardest for me to appropriately deal with. The only real memories of my biological dad I have are of walking around Phar-More and opening gifts on holidays. I reckon that's why I have the affinity for the games that I do.
To be clear, my dad isn't dead. He left when I was about 11. Parents had lived together for a while divorced, her with a new husband even. It was a really weird setup as a kid. He and I don't really talk though. I think the first time I talked to him this year was on my birthday. He called to say hey, we talked for about 10 minutes. It's rather hard to connect to someone who bailed on you for convenience sake. That and he's closer to 75 now, we have nothing in common.
I tried to reconnect with him years ago, I stayed out at his place in the mountains. Everything was ok for the most part until he pulled this validation $#it with me. Broke down and cried, told me he was sorry that he never raised me. For clarification, when we did stuff as a kid, he'd drive me somewhere and sit in the car and read Asimov's science fiction. Once in a while he'd walk with me, usually when we went to go fishing. Walking with me entailed walking to the dock and sitting with me as I fished alone. When we would actually do things he would tutor me. Classic programmer to think just because you provide information it'll be used as intended or retained without error.
I got way off topic here. Part of that was just a well needed vent. I'm going to take some more time and get my head clear. Thank you all again for the support.
But yeah, I spent way more on collecting my first year than any other year. Seems to be the norm with collecting. I'm honestly pretty bored of it right now, but I'm not making any rash decisions and selling out. You go through ups and downs all the time, and unless you truly need the money, there's no harm in having games on your shelves.
Yeah, replacing one addiction with another means your still an addict. Believe it or not. I was watching a "True Life" episode where a recovering alcoholic replaced her addiction with a new one... physical fitness. But then one day the gym was closed and she almost relapsed into alcohol. You have to diversify your hobbies if you want to break the addict mentality.
But yeah, I spent way more on collecting my first year than any other year. Seems to be the norm with collecting. I'm honestly pretty bored of it right now, but I'm not making any rash decisions and selling out. You go through ups and downs all the time, and unless you truly need the money, there's no harm in having games on your shelves.
I was the same way with drinking. I quit drinking for quite awhile, I used to trhow back at least a bottle of Jack Daniels a day. I stopped and started collecting nes and comic books but that got outta hand pretty quick. In any case, I don't consider myself a collector anymore, I more or less just buy things I want to play or stuff I remember fondly.
Sounds like your life sucks pretty hard dude. I'm sorry to put it so blunt but jesus, you got some crazy issues. I hope everything is going good for you, it sounds like things were on the upswing, at least according to your last thread like this. Don't discount the value of that wicked awesome Taco suit.
No proven harmful effects. Non addictive, and you can still funtcion at work. Not that I "condone" this practice, but these are the facts.
I disagree 100% with these statements, but I still heart your beard
^^^the beard got lopped off about 2 weeks ago. I'm in the middle of NoShavember now. Show me the harmful side of weed, since a lethal dose of THC would be 2500 lbs, smoked in a 15 minute period. It also inhibits the growth of cancer cells.
*edited for spelling, cause I type super fast when I'm high...
^^^the beard got lopped off about 2 weeks ago. I'm in the middle of NoShavember now. Show me the harmful side of weed, since a lethal dose of THC would be 2500 lbs, smoked in a 15 minute period. It also inhibits the growth of cancer cells.
*edited for spelling, cause I type super fast when I'm high...
I'm with you on the lethal does thing, it's pretty much impossible to OD on weed. But it inhibits cancer growth? I gotta look that up.
^^^the beard got lopped off about 2 weeks ago. I'm in the middle of NoShavember now. Show me the harmful side of weed, since a lethal dose of THC would be 2500 lbs, smoked in a 15 minute period. It also inhibits the growth of cancer cells.
*edited for spelling, cause I type super fast when I'm high...
I'm with you on the lethal does thing, it's pretty much impossible to OD on weed. But it inhibits cancer growth? I gotta look that up.
That it does, and is also prescribed to cancer patients to combat nausiea from chemo treatments. Hemp also makes a stronger rope than anything made so far. It can be grown in a number of climates as well, and if legal, and taxed, would be more than enough to finace the entire prison system.
I know total zombies because of their weed.. I would`nt suggest trading one addiction with another.
I know a guy who has cut their own finger off will a skil saw. Doesn't make saws bad.
Everything is ok in moderation, don't make a lifestyle out of it. Having done everything under the sun I can say it is a lot safer, cheaper, and better for you (relative terms) than other substances. I do not advocate, condone, or promote this though. It's great if you have problems where you are unable to eat and hold food down, like chemotherapy patients. Unfortunately media glorifies drug use and apathy, making a lot of folks think it's one in the same. Those who often think they're doing the cause a favor, are really hurting it more. The best thing anyone can do to prove that it's harmless is to carry on with their life and don't promote, solicit, or advertise it.
If we want to stop it, we need to end the war on it. We need to label it a public health issue and deal with it on a case by case basis and help people. Spain changed over and the crime rate dropped substantially and addicts seeking help were able to do so without persecution.
Addiction isn't even a factor too. THC is not physically addictive, everything can be mentally addictive, see post 1. What really gets me are religious fanatics who claim it's the devils doing. It's like this, there are THC receptors in every human being on the planet. If we weren't supposed to have them, we wouldn't. I don't like those weed churches though. I tried to help a guy who ran one. He got arrested, was afraid he'd lose his kid. I loaned that SOB $1,500.00 for a lawyer and he bought a QP, flipped it, then ran out of town. That's another story though.
TLDR : A man (or woman) isn't defined by the contents of a specimen jar but by their character. Don't bitch about drunk drivers then get high and drive. Live beyond a first person perspective. Blah blah blah.