i'm in a grey area and an impass
i don't know how many of you know this or not ... but there are two zones in life ... of which we can lean toward either ... there's the suicide zone and the super happy mega fun i want to live forever zone. If you're in the super happy mega fun i want to live forever zone good for you. I'm glad you're happy. 3 months ago I was in the suicide zone ... but today I'm in the grey area ... the area in between ... the area where I really don't care if I live or die. So I'm at an impass so to speak ... I'm trying to figure out what I want to do and who I want to become. Should invest money and time in law school, should I go for a masters in business and chill with the local college girls going for their bachelors, or should I become a self-absorbing egotistical jerk wad that wants money and power. Right now I'm going for the third one ... but I don't know. The second one sounds awfully nice.... and the first one might make the third one easier. Thoughts welcomed. All I know is priorities shift in life ... and when you think you're happy, you're not.
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The people you meet are mostly mature enough to need the services of a bank and/or handle cash. The environment is quiet and pays well. And they pay for your education, so you can eventually get your masters in whatever (so long as it's potentially in line for a more skilled bank job). The one I've applied to only requires you work there for two years after they pay for your classes.
Anyways, my big problem right now is meeting other adults, most of the people who know me are just kids from my old game store, I really have very very few adult friends. But that's one step to feeling better about yourself, is having others who at least care enough to ask how you're doing each morning.
Good luck, hope some others have good concrete suggestions.
Go for the third one. No matter what anyone says, you can buy happiness. Having money makes life a lot better. Good luck with whatever path you choose.
Hell yeah money can't buy happiness but it can buy things that make you happy.
And remember... "mo money mo problems, stanley...you of all people should know that" (j/k, but in all seriousness no amount of money makes people happy if they have a mindset of always wanting more).
I would definitely say if you are the type of person that always feels like you need more money or more stuff, then you need to break that mindset before you start making the real dough. It's a trap that leads to great misery. Also, if you become a lawyer and do private practice in a high cost of living area, you will potentially earn > $300k/year...then you'll have the pleasure of realizing a $100k per year contribution to uncle sam. I think that would be rather unnerving to somebody consumed by greed from the outset.
Anyway, final piece of advice - if you already have a bachelor's degree, don't pay to get your own master's. You should only ever get an advanced degree if somebody else is paying for it. (might be the school, the state or an employer...but tuition shouldn't come out of your own pocket)
Fly across the world and live in a poorer country for a year. Either that or hit a bunch of countries. I know that's not one of your options, but trust me you will find happiness if you travel. A good way to find out what's really important also.
Agreeded. You learn everything about yourself in a country when the only person you can communicate with is yourself.
I was in a really rough spot in my life, lost my girlfriend of three years, didn't want to go back to school, had some big debts, etc. I decided to get up and leave, take some time off from life and traveled. Went to a country of 160million people not knowing a single person, not knowing where I was going to even sleep at night. Spent three months away from life, came back and started all over again. Best decision I ever made.
Don't want to make anyone else upset here, but I disagee with what people have been saying. I don't think you can buy happiness. True happiness at least. Some of the happiest people I know are poor as all getout. I'm happy and I don't consider myself rich by any means.
If you want my honest certified counselors opinion, I would say you need to find purpose. Whether it's religion or something in life that is bigger than you (helping others, becoming a better person, etc), it usually helps focus your life and give you a reason. I know probably 98% of people will disagree with me here, but I work with depressed people everyday and this seems to be the biggest factor in overcoming it.
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If you want my honest certified counselors opinion, I would say you need to find purpose. Whether it's religion or something in life that is bigger than you (helping others, becoming a better person, etc), it usually helps focus your life and give you a reason. I know probably 98% of people will disagree with me here, but I work with depressed people everyday and this seems to be the biggest factor in overcoming it.
Church is also a great place to meet people and be involved in community projects, since you mentioned that as one of your concerns.
Get a bank job. That's my transition job.
Good luck with that. At least around here if you can find a bank that's hiring you've really done something.
Most employers in the financial industry either aren't hiring right now, or they're swamped with applicants from firms that have gone bust.
On a side note, I saw the beginnings of incoming unsolicited resumes on the fax machine at the office...
I'm sorry to hear that the market's so bad down in TN, up here there are multiple entry-level teller jobs at each of the big five local banks, and they pay wages for your week's training as well. It's a pretty sweet deal! Also beats the hell out of retail.
I thought working at a bank branch as a teller was considered retail.
And I would guess you deal with more polite clientele and fewer know-it-alls.
I thought working at a bank branch as a teller was considered retail.
If you've ever done both, you'll know the difference is huge.