I am really depressed...
I have been feeling really aweful and depressed recently... a lot of things have been happening which has caused me to never be happy and my grades are dropping. If anyones been through this i was wondering if they have any advice on how they felt better or cheeered up
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the world keeps turning so make the best of it and appreciate what you have. Dont give up on school education makes a big difference. not so much now but in the future
Focus on self improvement, find a good church or something
I know that may sound corny and people would probably be shocked to know I'm religious, but that's the only thing that got me out of my depression, also how I met my wife.
School was a tough time in my life also. I was maybe a C student at best, with a few D's mixed in. In college, since I was paying for it, and choosing what I was taking, I was able to focus, and get good grades. There is hope for everyone.
Originally posted by: JD
find a good church
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In 100 yrs from now not one person living on this earth today will be here.
Whether you die today or tomorrow makes no difference... We will all move on one day... It is inevitable.
The sun will still rise the following mornng, and again set at night, and we will have no control over any of it.
Believing in the existance of an afterlife brings hope to those who have little left in this life.
There will still be bills to pay, still be hardship ahead, still be hatred in this world... This will never go.
People ask me 'are you happy?' and my answer is always 'no'.
I barely know what happiness is anymore after seeing how mankind has become.
What I am though is content.
Content with who I am, grateful for what I have, and blessed to be able to have faith and knowledge, of what was promised by the Lord above
Keep smiling
Find something to do to occupy your time. Get into a great tv show or anime, watch a bunch of movies. Read a good book. Just keep your mind busy. Try not to just sit there, because that's the worse. If it's nice out, go for a walk or jog. Hell, even now when I just sit around I think of the negatives. Just keep busy, do your schoolwork. If you have a part time job, that also helps. Just keep your mind busy. Play a shit ton of video games even. Just something to keep you busy.
It's like what these guys said, the world keeps turning, tomorrow's a new day. I remember hearing that and thinking "I don't want tomorrow to come though, I don't want to go though another day". I thought that a lot, but music actually helped me. If you're into a lot of different music, listen to all of it. I don't know what type of music you're into, but check out a guy by the name of Frank Turner. He's an insanely great musician and has a outlook on life that I think we could all use, especially during these rough times. Just keep your head up buddy, you'll get through this. Talk to everyone and anyone, its amazing who actually listens and tries to help. It's also amazing who you can meet by doing that.
Just keep your head up, tomorrow brings a brighter day. And remember, no matter how bad you have it, there's always someone out there who needs YOU to cheer THEM up. You'll get through this, believe me, if I could get through it (or at least the worst of it), you can. Good luck man, I hope tomorrow brings a brighter and happier day for you.
I have a great group, albeit small, group of friends who I spent at least 2-3 days a week with. They were great help. When I was with them they knew what was going on, but we didn't sit around and talk about it all the time. We treated things like they always were, had a blast, laughed, etc. This was the biggest help I could ask for.
These times are good to focus on yourself as well, at least that's what I found. Every day I tried to make something in my life better. Get that school work in order, focus on getting your grades back up, participate in classes, etc... When not working on school stuff a job can be great to keep moving and focused on something else. When you're home, play video games, plug some headphones into an ipod and drown the world out, read, write, paint, build model cars, do a reno around the house, whatever you can that you enjoy. What kind of TV are you into? I found that when I was having some tough times I got into different shows, something really engrossing like band of brothers really got my mind off things.
You're going to hear this a lot, and it's going to sound like people are telling you to "suck it up" but it's not meant like that... the sun will always come up to bring a new, fresh day. Treat it just as that. A New day. Yesterday is over. Leave it behind, get out of bed, and start your day like you mean to. When I was having a tough time every morning when I woke up I told myself that it was a new day, to get up, do what I have to do, and leave yesterday behind.
Good luck buddy, there are a lot of great people on here that are very happy to help and offer advice, so use it.
Oh and throw in some other people.
Communication and interaction is underrated alot.
Weed and a heavy punchin bag. Works wonders.
1) Spending time with friends and family that care about you and that you care about. It can sometimes be tough, but it can be great help and comfort.
2) Try to find something productive to shift your focus onto. Sometimes working out, or picking up a hobby. I wrote poetry and took long walks. It may sound silly, but it helped me sort my thoughts out and move on.
3) Communities are great, especially if there are shared interests. Church can be a great help, or heck even a community like NA (it's pretty rad here).
4) Set goals to work towards. After I started planning my next phase of life (moving and a trade school), I was able to have a sense of excitement about a better future.
5) Sometimes these things are linked to chemical or hormonal wackness. Maybe medication could be of benefit, if a doctor thinks it is wise.
6) Remember though, it sometimes takes hard work to get through tough times. I wanted to sleep all day, but after that chat with my dad, I started to force myself to take measures to better the situation.
Hope things look up for you. Remember, everyone here is pretty cool and supportive. I think it was a great thing to step up and mention it here, and I'm sure that there's a lot of valuable advice around these forums.
Originally posted by: GameBoyScotty
I wish I could "After School Special" my tactic.... but I can't. I don't suggest you do this, but this is my stress release method.
Weed and a heavy punchin bag. Works wonders.
Smoking w33d is def not my method of coping at all, but if everything else fails and you aren't 100% agsainst it ... I just didn't want to be the jerk to say it first! Thanks Scotty!
I usually take the doors off the jeep and go for a long drive.
Originally posted by: Nin10d0h Wayne
Originally posted by: GameBoyScotty
I wish I could "After School Special" my tactic.... but I can't. I don't suggest you do this, but this is my stress release method.
Weed and a heavy punchin bag. Works wonders.
Smoking w33d is def not my method of coping at all, but if everything else fails and you aren't 100% agsainst it ... I just didn't want to be the jerk to say it first! Thanks Scotty!
I usually take the doors off the jeep and go for a long drive.
agreed. buy a jeep wrangler. thats what i did my 3rd year of college. worked fabulously
you should also try focusing hard core on ur gaming collections. these are the things that i do
Originally posted by: qtoyoda
I have been feeling really aweful and depressed recently... a lot of things have been happening which has caused me to never be happy and my grades are dropping. If anyones been through this i was wondering if they have any advice on how they felt better or cheeered up
I drank myself stupid nightly for about 9 straight months. Wouldn't really recommend that route.
Find something, anything, that you find doesn't make you miserable. I don't care what it is, something, somewhere that you find yourself saying, hey, I'm not as miserable as I was yesterday. Whatever that thing is, do it, much and often.
I've heard exercise is good too.
I read the religious side of looking at things, now I'll give you the atheist side: life is gonna end, and you won't have an existence after it, good or bad. Life is short and precious to spend it on a depression.
Originally posted by: buttheadrulesagain
Also, have sex, even if it's the hired kind. Just use protection.
Maybe it's a difference in upbringing, but I would think the shame from hiring a prostitute would potentially cancel out any temporary alleviation of depression from banging one out.
Originally posted by: millerjm2
Don't be ashamed to ask a professional for help.
I agree, there is so many walk in clinics in BC and its FREE!!!!!. You can usually drop in anytime have a chat with someone if they feel you need more then they will refer you to someone more educated. Don't worry about it, it's not you. Everyone has these periods in life, your young get to the bottom of it, if your concious of it then you already have a head start.
Walk in clinics are FREE!!!!!!! You don't even need to go to your doctor.
I speak about this through first hand experience, I have been there and done that.
Originally posted by: arch_8ngel
Originally posted by: buttheadrulesagain
Also, have sex, even if it's the hired kind. Just use protection.
Maybe it's a difference in upbringing, but I would think the shame from hiring a prostitute would potentially cancel out any temporary alleviation of depression from banging one out.
I know this is off topic but.....
It's totally due to upbringing, sex is too often shyed upon or blatently taught to be naughty. Thats wrong!
I just recently watched a documentry on sex and its effects on handicapped people, they have to pay for sex due to the public stigma on sex and handicapped people, but the benefits are tremendous.
I agree in todays age you need to wrap it up, but to abstain from sex is the complete wrong way about it.
The documentry is called, Scarlet Red A Sex Workers Journey
Originally posted by: arch_8ngel
Originally posted by: buttheadrulesagain
Also, have sex, even if it's the hired kind. Just use protection.
Maybe it's a difference in upbringing, but I would think the shame from hiring a prostitute would potentially cancel out any temporary alleviation of depression from banging one out.
I guess it is upbringing. Not that my parents actually told me that, but it's something I came up with with time (and also after watching the Penn and Teller's Bullshit episode about it).
The depressing part comes from the fact that somebody only wanted to have sex with you because you paid the for it.
the part of the equation where a lady WANTS you is important.
It would be comparably depressing to have to pay friends to hang out with you, I think.
Why is it important for the woman to want you always? I care about that if it's my girlfriend, my wife, or if I want to prove something to myself, but certainly not if I'd only wanted sexual gratification, akin to watching porn, but much better.